Now look, I'm going to be honest. First dates where I'm just getting to know a girl, I go for the classics. Things like dinner, or a movie, maybe coffee.. Things like that. Safe things. Things that most people are ok with, and willing to do, and that won't get you killed. That being said, there have been times when I've asked a girl what SHE wanted to do on the first date, and sometimes those responses are.. well.. Not really the kind of thing you do on a first date. So, ladies, if your gentleman asks you what you would like to do, please steer away from the following.
Number 1 - Do not invite them to anything with your parents. I don't care if you're in high school and your folks want to spend every moment of the date with you. Do not put a guy through this. It's intimidating, it's weird, and most importantly, it's not actually a date. It's you hanging out with a guy who thinks you're cute, while your parents watch and scrutinize everything he does. If your parents want to meet him, fine, he needs to show up and make a nice introduction. That doesn't mean they need to sit three rows behind you in a theater, ready to pounce if he puts an arm around you.
Number 2 - Any kind of class. These can be fun, cute, romantic things to do if you've been with someone for a bit. Not for a first date. Cooking class? Do you really want to give a guy you barely know a sharp knife and access to fire? Pottery class? It's cute, sure, but it's also a solid way to say "I'm going to be a crazy cat lady someday" on a first date. My personal favorite was the girl who invited me to her Yoga class. Because, you know, that's an appropriate date. Taking your guy to a place where he can either see attractive and fit women his age bending and being flexible, or he can see women who THINK they're like that, trying to do the same thing. Don't suggest a class, please.
Number 3 - Anything that involves more than 45 minutes straight in a car. I'm serious. If you two have to sit next to each other for too long on the way to a date, there may be blood. Pick something close for a first date, and as your relationship grows, so will your date radius. If you really, REALLY want to do something far away, make it a group thing and bring a few friends. It's for your own sanity.
Number 4 - Weddings. I mean, really? Do I need to explain why this is a bad first date idea? I don't think I do. Just don't do it. Ever. Take a platonic friend if you need a date, leave the poor new guy alone and go out some other time. Weddings are another sure way to make a guy think you're a little crazy and need to just calm it down a notch.
I don't want you to feel singled out by this, ladies. Guys have some pretty bad first date ideas too, I'm sure. For instance, you may want to reconsider if a guy suggests any of the following first dates:
Paintball. (it hurts. Fun, but painful)
Skydiving. (you're going to die)
Scuba diving. (you're going to die, and he'll cop a necro-feel)
Weddings. (he's crazy, and most likely clingy)
A romantic trip out to sea on his boat. (you're going to die)
Dinner with his mother. (guy's got issues)
And a plethora of others that I'm sure exist. I'll have to ask my female friends for examples to provide a better list, but let's start with that.
Remember, if you don't know them, stick to things that everyone enjoys. No point in taking a date to a theme park if they hate all the rides.
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