Ok, so ladies... Can we talk for a moment? Man to women? This one is for you. Let's talk about the things you do at dinner that we, as men, really wish you wouldn't.
First and foremost, remember that we asked you on a date. We. Asked. You. So clearly we find you attractive, want to spend time with you, and pursue you romantically. Please keep that in mind for more than 10 minutes. If you can, remember it the entire night, and failing that, whenever you think you need to fish for a compliment.
I cannot even begin to tell you how many times I've picked a girl up for a date only to have her ask me over dinner "Do I look good in this?", or "Do you think I look pretty tonight?"... Let me be clear. 99% of the time I will tell you "You look really nice today" or "I love the way you look in that dress". I'm a gentleman and it's WHAT WE DO. As such, you do not need to bring it back up, because honestly it just makes you seem dependent on compliments. No one likes when their date spends the entire evening looking for more and more compliments. I asked you to dinner, so clearly I find you attractive and a joy to be around. Yes, I'm sure guys do it too, but I've never gone on a date with a man, so I can't speak from experience. If the guy doesn't compliment your appearance, don't sweat it. Maybe it just didn't seem as important as having an engaging conversation with a lovely woman. There's nothing particularly wrong with that, and believe me when I tell you that he IS thinking of how pretty you look.
Another thing to not talk about? Your ex. I don't care how close you were, or how long you were together, or even what a douchebag he is. Do not, ever, bring up your ex on a date. If he isn't standing behind me with a murderous rage in his eyes, I don't want to know he even exists. Think about how you would feel if the man across from you kept starting sentences with "You know, my ex.."... And don't try to get around it by referring to them by name, or anything like that. Every single time you mention your ex, we take it as a sign you're comparing us to them. And that is a bad thing. Even if we're winning the comparison, it means you're still thinking about him, when you're supposed to be on a date with us. The last thing I want to hear after ordering my martini is "You know, my ex never brought me to any nice places like this". Even if you, your date, and your ex are the only people on a small island, and the only people you know, do not bring them up. Talk about the decor. The music. The menu. ANYTHING but your ex.
If you want to talk about your ex, give them a call. It's obvious they're still on your mind, and you aren't ready to be on a date with someone else.
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