Maaaan. Been awhile. Not going to lie, a lot of it is that I usually write in here when I'm bitter about something relationship/dating-wise, and I really haven't had much to complain about lately. Kind of have a pretty awesome woman in my life, and it's been a nice change of pace.
But fuck it, this is the internet and I still have things to say.
So, let's talk about respect. I mean really, respect goes both ways and you should respect each other, but let's not pretend we're here so I can be like... Ladies. Respect your man! That's not why I'm here, and hopefully that's not why you're here, or you'll be a little disappointed.
Gentlemen. Menfolk. Boys. We are a pretty disrespectful lot when it comes to women. Like.. wow. Take a moment and really think about it, and then just let the feeling of "Fuck, I'm an asshat" wash over you. It's ok. Really. Take it all in.
Now, a large part of this is the fact that we live in a patriarchal society where men are men and women are second class. Don't argue with me, you know I'm right. Sit down. Now think back to how many times you've made some sexist joke like "Oh, what do you tell a woman with two black eyes? Nothing, she was already told twice!" or "Why would I get a woman a watch, there's a clock on the stove!" ...Laugh it up. Thing is, there's funny ha-ha, and there's funny "Oh shit we're perpetuating a culture of disrespecting everyone without a dick", which is to say... there's funny, and there's not really funny.
Let me ask you a pretty simple question. Do you respect the women in your life? All of them? Not just your family (though that is important), but your female friends, coworkers, and partners?
Now, do you just respect them outwardly? Or is your respect internal as well? Example. Do you treat a woman nice, and respectful, to her face, but then when you're out with the boys talk about her in a disrespectful or inappropriate manner? Both are important.
This is feeling a bit wordy to me. Sorry about that, but I'm not really sorry. The thing is you have to respect the people you're with. Have. To. It really shouldn't be an option not to, but the horrible truth is that there are many women out there who have gone so long without ever being respected as a person that they just think "Oh, well, I deserve to be treated like this". And they don't. Really, ladies, you don't, and fuck anyone who tells you otherwise. ...Phrasing, not like, proper fuck, but those people can go to hell.
I don't know, maybe I'm old fashioned, but I really believe that respect is an integral part of any healthy relationship. It goes both ways, yes, but generally the men are the ones causing problems. Like, if your lady says no to something? Anything? Respect it. Don't be like... "Hey girl... you lookin' pretty. Lemme get the P in the V" and when she says "No, I don't feel like it", jam your dick in anyway. That's not cool, and beyond being disrespectful, it's illegal (because that's rape, dating someone does not entitle you sex whenever you want). Or if she asks you to refrain from a certain type of behavior (within reason)? Like, if your lady asks you to do something as simple as wiping your feet when you walk in the door. Don't argue. Wipe your damn feet. Small displays of respect are as important as large ones.
I'm not gonna lie, it's actually pretty hard right now for me to think of common displays of disrespect that aren't the illegality we've already covered. Be polite. Be a nice fuckin' guy. Well, I guess this is getting to the TL;DR, so be a nice fuckin' lady. Be a nice fuckin' PERSON. Not just to your partner, but to everyone, because maybe they just need that little bit of respect.
And again. Ladies. If some dude out there disrespects you and treats you like garbage. You don't have to put up with that shit. You deserve better, and he deserves some icy hot in the peehole.
