Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Lesson 15 - Stop Trying to Turn it Around

I know, I know... You're NEVER wrong.  In fact, you're SO GOOD at never being wrong, that you have to be right even when the other person isn't wrong.  It's a gift, really, that you're just trying to share with the world.

Let's try an example.  Let's say that you and your significant other are up early one morning, and you decide to prepare some breakfast for the two of you.  Some bacon, maybe a nice toasted English muffin... Oh, and an omelette! Everyone loves a nice omelette, right?  So the lucky man or woman in your life comes into the kitchen...

"Oh, you're making eggs?  Great! Everything smells delicious!"
And you, of course, reply "Uh, no.  I'm making OMELETTES."

Now let's be real.  You're just trying to educate and inform.  Omelettes aren't EGGS.  Well... They are... But wait, it's important to clarify! These aren't some scrambled eggs from Waffle House!  These are OMELETTES.

No.  They're eggs, and you're being a bit of a bitch.  The appropriate reply would have been something along the lines of "Yeah, I'm making us some omelettes! What do you want in yours?".  You know, like an adult.  Not a spoiled brat who needs to be right so badly that you insinuate others are wrong for... Well, for being right.  Now, had you been making something other than eggs, it would have been appropriate to say "No, I'm actually making omelettes".... But that's still a polite way to do it rather than being a taint.

Let's keep it simple.  If someone isn't wrong, don't try to twist what they've said to make them sound wrong. Especially not if you're just going to repeat back what they've said as the reason why they're wrong.  It's a dick move, yo.  I fully understand that conflict can be exciting, some people get turned on by a good argument, and that's a solid way to start one.  It's also a solid way to get a frying pan to the face, and there's nothing about that which screams "Do me right here on the table!".  Unless, you know, one of you is turned on by broken noses.

You're not always right, no one is.  But that doesn't make it ok to try and prove someone else is wrong over nothing.